I was once told that Erving Goffman said that it is better to keep your mouth shut and make people wonder if you are an idiot then to open it and prove them right. Recently I’ve been given the advice that I should keep my mouth shut so that people might wonder about me. It awakens the mystery, I am told. I think this is incorrect. People believe today, as they should, that the person who does not speak is a person who paradoxically says too much. They go on and on about nothing at all. He or she who does not speak presents him- or herself as a master at speech! But those who speak stand naked and vulnerable. It is only by speaking that one can truly fall in love.